Updated: May 15
Fear is like an old ex that refuses to let go. It holds us back from reaching our goals, it keeps us playing small, and from chasing our dreams. Fear holds us back from taking chances, because we are afraid of failing. How can we move beyond our fear, embrace the unknown and see failures as opportunities? What if I told you that you might already know the answers? There are ways to turn any failure into an opportunity. Grab a pen and notebook and let me tell you a story......
You may be wondering a little about how I came to be here with you today. Let me tell you a quick story about failure. At the time I was in the middle of my twenties.
I was trying to figure out what my purpose was. But I had no confidence or self-esteem. And I was getting more and more depressed
Then the bottom fell out from under me when I was in a toxic & abusive relationship.
I couldn't seem to get myself out, I had no money, felt like I was broken, & without confidence I felt stuck...
Positive Mindset & Gratitude
As you can imagine, I was in bad shape and desperate, but I wasn't ready to give up on my dream of becoming an entrepreneur. Then I realized that I had gotten myself there, and I could get myself out. I dove into everything about a positive mindset, the Law of Attraction and Gratitude (Yes Gratitude with a capital G!).
At that point, everything changed!
It's not what the world can do for me, but what can I do for the world. We get so stuck in our own victim mentality that we freeze, and we stop taking action because we are so stuck in what we don't have, in our fear & limiting beliefs.
What did I figure out?
Yes, yes, We all have heard before about the Law of Attraction, Positive Thinking & Gratitude. We might have even done "the work", but then we keep coming back to feeling "stuck". So the question I will ask you to think about right now is: If you already know about it, have you actually really DONE it?
Anyway, back to the story....
I figured out how to:
Learn how to take risks
Manifest my dream life
How to be confident
Because of my Positive Mindset, the Law of Attraction & Gratitude I was able to:
Create my own business
Increase my Self-esteem
Realize that my thoughts create my life
Dare to make mistakes
Have a six-figure income
Now I never have to worry about failing ever again. Because I know it’s not about FAILING, it’s about taking chances and learning lessons.
Truth is we don’t know what tomorrow will bring, we can truly see that now with the current situation in the world, COVID-19. None of us guessed this would happen.
Taking chances might mean you fail - but that is not really failing, it depends on how you see it. What if you saw it as a lesson instead?
And how would it make you feel if you just dared to take more risks? Would you feel free??
Grab a pen and a notebook and journal about those questions, and feel free to use these journal prompts:
If there was no chance of failing, what would you do?
What is holding yourself back?
What is the one thing you are the most afraid of?
How can you add more gratitude into your day?
Life is a continuous journey of taking chances, from the moment we wake up - we take chances every day without even thinking about it. Do that with your goals and dreams as well. You might fail, but that means you had the courage to try, and see what lesson it could bring you.
Just look at a young child that is learning how to walk. They never stop trying no matter how many times they fail - they do it over and over again until they get it!
You might be scared of failing - but then you are somehow scared of living.
Failing can be a breath of fresh air - it comes with a lot of confidence that you tried. You are here today due to all of your failures, because every failure shows us what worked and what did not. That's part of life.
There have been so many times I tried and it didn’t end up the way I wanted (COUNTLESS OF TIMES) but I felt so dang good for trying.
For every failure it meant that I have pushed the needle a little bit more. I just pushed it more and more to move further.
I use to be so scared of public speaking, terrified.. For saying what I really feel, for expressing who I am. I couldn’t even imagine doing all the things I am doing now. All which seemed impossible at that time.
But I took on step at the time - and I failed, over and over again. I have felt embarrassed - but every time I have tried and failed I have learned something.
Go back to your last failure and look at it with a new perspective, what did you learn? What can you different the next time. Just note, and show yourself compassion, not negativity.
For with every time I have moved closer to really learning how to be fearless. TO FEAR - LESS.
I stopped seeing it as “I might fail” to “I will take a chance”
And it feels so good! Because somehow I was taking myself so seriously. And with each failure, I learned that it's ok to make a fool of myself and to make mistakes.
Show yourself compassion, it's OK to fail, it's part of life
Challenge yourself to do something that scares you within the next week, and expect failing.
When you come in a negative loop of why you failed, or why you will fail, add gratitude. For anything you feel negative about, think about what about ti you can be grateful for. I promise you that there is always different ways to look at a situation.
It's all about mindset, and we can slowly change the way we think. But remember to be patient!
Law of Attraction works, your thoughts attract your reality. But in order to attract, you need to take action, and action means potentially failing
Failing is not really a thing - YOU JUST LEARNED A LESSON. Repeat and try again!
Aka - See failing as an opportunity, an opportunity for you to grow and do better next time. Not a big deal, fail, adjust, and re-do!
No one makes it on the first try, even though it might look like all entrepreneurs did, I promise you, they failed MANY times before succeeding.
I can’t imagine myself without all the mistakes. I would have been living in a box - in a bubble. Too scared of living.
Now I create my own world. And it’s all about how you look at things!
And that's why I'm so passionate about "turning failures into opportunities". Because it turned my life around I know it can help you too when you learn to shift your mindset!
Please email me your failures and your fear of failures - I wanna hear from you! Naming our fears is really powerful! firstname.lastname@example.org
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